My ‘Pride and Prejudice’ Dilemma

Winnie the Pooh

The first time I learned what Pride and Prejudice was all about was in 2005 with Keira Knightley’s and Matthew Macfadyen’s interpretation of Jane Austen’s famous novel. Since then, Pride & Prejudice has been my favorite movie, and Keira Knightley my favorite actress. (I’m obsessed with her :3 )Read More »

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Unmasking Disney’s Winnie the Pooh

Winnie the Pooh

Yesterday I found out that A.A. Milne’s Birthday was on January 18th. I’ve had this draft since summer and I don’t know why I’ve never posted it. Well, now I got a good reason. Happy (belated) B-day, Mr. Milne!!! 🙂

During my childhood, Winnie the Pooh was one of my favorite Disney characters. After my obsession of being Princess Cinderella, came the love and adoration towards Pooh and his friends. And as I grew up, the Winnie the Pooh movies were ones that I had memorized and could play them forward and backward in my head anytime. But of course, once I got to college and started studying the different genres of literature, I got interested in what was really behind that “Silly old bear” in the first place.Read More »

6 Things to Know about Anxiety

Sometimes when I go to my grandmother’s house I like to check out her bookshelf because she is really into motivational books. A few months back she gave me one that caught my attention because it talks about our Emotional Wisdom. It is a self-help book by Walter Riso, a cognitive psychologist and Magister in bioethics, and it deals with the emotions that we have throughout our lives, that is: happiness, sadness, anxiety, stress, and so forth. Because I am a very anxious person myself, I was very intrigued by the author’s approach to our emotions.

Thus, after reading his book on our emotions, I concluded that when it comes to anxiety, there are 3 things that we need to know:

1. Anxiety comes when we overthink something and that raises a red flag in our brains making it think that it needs to prepare us for the catastrophe that is about to come.

2. Anxiety Disorder comes (not specifically, but usually) to those whose minds are strongly and distinctly immersed in the future and thus are unable to live in the present.

3. Stress is anxiety’s baby: Brain thinks we are in danger, red flags are raised, we blind ourselves thinking about what is to come and that’s when the uncontrollable tension begins to rise inside of us making us stressful and desperate.

Goodbye

So I guess these are the basics when it comes to anxiety, and when we have these sort of problems I believe that it all starts with the power of OVERTHINKING.

Well, here’s my theory: Overthinking is what leads us to those “worst case scenarios.” That’s when we start getting anxious. Our brain prepares our body and our minds for what is to come, and then when there’s nothing there, the brain keeps building up these shields, like barrier over barrier in order to protect us; which eventually pushes us into desperation and stress. However, who can blame a person for overthinking when it’s basically a part of our human nature? We are always thinking three steps ahead, thinking about the outcome instead of the process.
For that, we need to learn how to not overthink everything.

GoodbyeRiso claims that the secret is to find an environment where happiness and repose can coexist. Finding something or some place where we can calm our thoughts: a place in the world where we can just stop and do whatever we want to do. It doesn’t matter if it’s in our car, our shower, under the rain, at a coffee shop, or with a special someone. What matters is that you let yourself stop, breathe, and be happy with the moment.

Sounds beautiful, right? Did you feel the motivation? Shed a tear?

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No? Okay, so moving along.

Well for anxious people, or at least for me when I first read it, my thought was “This is complete and utter bullshit.” How can one repose when we live in a world that’s going 100mph? How can I not overthink and fixate on the future with everything that is happening around the world? How can I not overthink about my future job, family, life?

But then again, that’s the whole point of Mr. Riso’s book, isn’t it? To make you realize that nothing good comes from overthinking. No matter the life you live, your overthinking leads to anxiety which leads to stress; which in many cases leads to depression and mental and physical exhaustion. Thus, going back to Riso’s points about dealing with anxiety, I guess one should at least try. Myself included.

So, I think that any person with anxiety disorder should also know these 3 other things about anxiety:

1. Anxiety comes from overthinking, and there’s this quote that says “Overthinking kills happiness.” Thus, try to take the overthinking down a notch.

2. Anxiety Disorder many times comes to those who are fixated on the future. According to Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Life is a journey, not a destination.” Enjoy each moment that you have. Be it good or bad just live through it and learn from the present instead of thinking about what will happen 10 years from now.

3. Stress is anxiety’s baby! And you are the mommy or daddy!!! Here’s a fun story: our Department’s Interim Associate Director has a paper on her desk, just beside the chair. So once you sit down it’s the first thing you see. It’s basically a flowchart asking if you have a problem. The lines that follow ask if there’s something you can do about it. It doesn’t matter if the answer is yes or no, both lead to the same result which is not to worry. So every time we were stressed out she would make us sit down and follow the flow chart and tell us not worry. Life will take its course. Just let it happen.

So think about these things, my friends. (BUT DON’T OVER DO IT) Meditate on your lives and just be thankful that you woke up to another day. ❤

Goodbye

Until our next time,

Demi

Web Wednesday: I Was 17 When I Got My First

As I’ve mentioned, I have the Little Writing Factory blog with a friend of mine where I am known as The Music Enthusiast. There we have various sections in which we write about different topics. So for today’s Web Wednesday section, I wrote this post which I admit I am actually really proud of. I wrote it about a funny BuzzFeed video which was really fun to watch and really fun to write about. If you are a fan of tattoos like I am, then take a peek. It’s funny and interesting, and I am really happy to have shared my thoughts about tattoos and what they really mean to me.

I hope you guys like it!! If you do, show us the love by liking or commenting please & thank you!! Enjoy!

Thanks & Until our next time,

Adieu 😉

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